The end of my adoption journey

the end

To the Adopt and Foster SA and Adoptmom community…

So, as many of you know, I am an adoptive mom and because of my own adoption journey I stared the Adopt and Foster SA Facebook group 3 years ago.  I also took over Adoptmom from Terri Lailvaux a few months ago.

My adoption journey has consisted of 3 crazy, happy, sad, confusing years.  3 years I don’t regret one single minute of and I really have gained so much from these 3 years.  I met the most amazing people, I’ve experience and lived the most amazing things and I’ve really gained the best gift and experience… But I’m not so sure this journey is meant to continue for me anymore.

I love adoption and everything it stands for but I don’t want it to define me and who I am anymore.  I’m not even sure if that makes sense actually.  Adoption is a part of my life and always will be.  I just don’t know where to from here…  This confusion has made me turn to you all, the one place that has given me strength and peace over the last 3 years to try and make sense of it.

On one hand, I feel like it’s my calling and my passion to keep going, but on the other, I feel like it’s keeping me in a box.  A box I’m not sure I want to be in at the moment.  I really sound like a crazy person, don’t I!?

Adoptmom as well as Adopt and Foster SA deserves to be a full time passion / business, it has the potential to do so much good in this world and I don’t think I’ve been giving it the attention it deserves to make it grow into what it should be and has the potential to become.

Since taking over Adoptmom from Terri I’ve only seen one or two couples for an adoption information session, counseled a few people via telephone and sold a few books in the last few months.  I’ve also recently been given the opportunity to make my part time job more full time.  This is something that would mean so much to my family financially and something I really have to consider.

I think the passion I’ve always felt for adoption has dwindled as my little boy has gotten older and my adoption chapter has become almost something of the past.  I know adoption will always be a part of our lives and who we are, but it’s not as important to me now as it was even a year ago.  Hope I am making sense here and not just babbling on…

I think I need to pass it on to someone who has the time, energy and passion to give it their all, to give it the attention it deserves.  To someone who still has that adoption fire burning in them…

I feel so bad that I haven’t given Adoptmom all the love and attention that Terri had hoped I would.  It is a great full time business with the potential to earn a lot of money from the counselling but you have to market the counselling, attend adoption conferences and keep in touch with the social workers and build relationships.  Terri wrote a lot of articles for magazines, websites and did loads of radio interviews and that’s where she initially became well-known and then word of mouth kind of kicked in.  She also popped in to the Cape Fertility clinic every few months and dropped of cards and flyers.  Sadly I never quite got to all that.

Now, my question to you… Would any of you be interested in taking over something like this or do you know of anyone that would be?

It would obviously need to be someone who has a passion for adoption and possibly even has a Counselling diploma or something similar, although it’s not necessary as you are really only sharing your experience as someone whose life has been touched by adoption and telling them how to get started, giving them guidance.For-Sale (Medium)

If you are this person or know this person, please get in touch with me.  I would ideally like to sell the Adoptmom business, but I’m not asking much pricewise.  I basically just want to cover my costs.  But get in touch and we can go from there.  Even if you can’t afford to buy it, let’s chat.

For now I’m going to add a few moderators onto the Adopt and Foster SA Facebook group and keep it going even though I’m taking a back seat.  As for Adoptmom, I’m posting this in the hope that I find the perfect person to take over from me very soon.  I will do the counselling and information sessions I have committed to, but will take a step back and put it all on hold after that.

I have really enjoyed getting to know all of you and sharing in your adoption and fostering stories.  It’s meant so much to me.  But it’s time… :)

Lots of love,