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Clicks Staff Wellness Day

Posted by Terri Lailvaux on April 05, 2011
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Category : Adoption

Title: Clicks Staff Wellness Day Location: UPD Distr.Centre Montague Gardens Description: Creating awareness at Click Staff Wellness day around adoption, infertility and the assistance that is available for interested parties. Start Time: 10:00 Date: 2011-05-12 End Time: 15:00

Clicks Staff Wellness Day

Posted by Terri Lailvaux on April 05, 2011
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Category : Adoption

Title: Clicks Staff Wellness Day Location: Clicks Head Office – Woodstock, Cape Town Description: Creating awareness at Click Staff Wellness day around adoption, infertility and the assistance that is available for interested parties. Start Time: 10:00 Date: 2011-05-25 End Time: 15:00

Guest speaker on ClicksLive

Posted by Terri Lailvaux on April 05, 2011
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Category : Adoption

Title: Guest speaker on ClicksLive Location: Clicks head office – Woodstock Description: Topic of discussion: The benefits of adoption and people’s inner need to have children. Start Time: 09:30 Date: 2011-05-05 End Time: 10:00

Adoption Group Discussion

Posted by Terri Lailvaux on April 05, 2011
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Category : Adoption

Title: Adoption Group Discussion
Location: Kenilworth
Description: Group Discussion for pre and post adoptive parents.
Guest speaker – Eloise from Procare
Start Time: 09:30
Date: 2011-05-07
End Time: 12:30

An Amazing Story

Posted by Terri Lailvaux on April 01, 2011
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Category : Adoption

An amazing story showing us that what meant to be will be! Read this story – It just proves that babies will come to you whenever they are meant to…no matter what the negative people say!
http://sharonannevanwyk.wordpress.com/about-2/

International adoptions

Posted by Terri Lailvaux on March 30, 2011
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Category : Adoption

I have had a few enquiries lately from people who want to do international adoptions.  At this stage, there is no one in South Africa that can assist with that.  The feeling is that with around 1.8 million South African children available for adoption, international adoptions would be wrong.  There are agencies that deal with international adoptions but that is only for SA kids being adopted by people living abroad.  Although many people believe that children should be raised in their birth country by people of their culture, in SA, this is simply not possible.  Our numbers just do not add up.  See the basic diagram below and you will understand what I am saying!

So, how do we ensure that our 1.8 million kids get adopted?  Public Awareness!!  We need to break through the barriers of stigma and fear and create a sustainable and available information system.  This has already been started by Adoption Voice SA on their website http://www.adoption.org.za/

The aim of this website is to provide information on ALL adoption role players and practitioners to the public.

A Day Of Reflection On Adoption

Posted by Terri Lailvaux on March 26, 2011
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Category : Adoption

Today I went to do an adoption TV interview for a magazine programme on CTV.  The presenter interviewed me, (mom, author etc) Eloise (Social Worker – Procare) and an adult adoptee who grew up as a Zulu until age 13 and then her mom passed away and she was adopted by an Indian family.

My reflection started after the interviews.  The presenter had asked me ” What are the problems you have or have had in the past regarding adoption and being an adoptive parent?”  Honestly, in the past 6 1/2 years I have to say NONE.  Well – none related to being an adoptive mom.  My family, friends, colleagues and strangers have always been accepting and supportive of the adoption.  My son is the greatest creature on the earth and I consider myself hugely blessed to be his mom.   He is a light in each day.  No matter how difficult a day is, he always manages to come up with at least one “Alex-ism” which makes me laugh or makes my heart melt.

I think back to all the fertility treatments and all the adoption queries, the paper work, the interviews, the waiting period, the tiny, sick prem baby we received.  It was so stressful, so emotional, so expensive and SO WORTH IT!!

I think that there is a plan out there for everyone and this little boy was definately destined to be my son.

Thank you universe and thank you birth mom! xxx

For those of you who still want to try surrogacy or maybe an egg donor, have a look at http://www.nurture.co.za

This is run by Tertia and her team who are possibly the most dedicated ladies you will find.  Read about Tertia’s personal infertility journey at http://www.tertia.org/

Also featured on the Nurture site are some additional contacts for adoption http://www.nurture.co.za/adoption-information/

Keep on trying…that baby is out there looking for you!  xx

Wowee! I am back from the wonderful National Adoption Coalition Conference! A small group of concerned people got together and formed a coalition for anyone who is a role-player in adoption. This tiny team has spent the past few months designing a website, an ad campaign and a conference. Around 110 delegates attended the conference at Monte Casino. The delegates were made up of staff from the Department of Social Development, Child Welfare, Private adoption social workers, adoptive parents, a media company and more. We spent 2 very interesting days hashing out the problems and solutions to the world of adoption in South Africa.

Here are some fascinating (and terrifying) stats:

  • There are 18.8 million children in South Africa
  • 1.5 million – 2 million are adoptable
  • That makes up 4% of the total population and and 40% of the child population
  • 0.2% of these adoptable children are getting adopted and that number is declining.
  • 38% of the adoptable kids are in Foster Care which is not a permanent solution
  • There were 5000 teenage pregnancies is Gauteng in 2010 which will result in births in 2011

Clearly, we have a problem.  The new Children’s Act is very protective of our children but it has also slowed the process of adoption down somewhat.  The Department of Social Development is very committed to getting the process to be fast & efficient in the near future.  In fact everyone who attended the conference, made a commitment to do their bit to get these kids into permanent and loving homes.

See the logo above?  The bundle of sticks?  That is a symbol of all of us role-players pulling together to make it happen.  At the conference, we all signed a stick on a board to show our commitment.

Unfortunately, there were no stats available on the race of adoptable kids and race of waiting-to-adopt families.  Suffice to say though that the majority of adoptable kids are Black and then Coloured with a tiny amount of Whites and Indians.  On the other hand, the majority of adults waiting to adopt are White and then Coloured with very few Indians and Blacks adopting.

So….the question is:  Is it better to send a baby into a loving, permanent, secure home which may involve being raised by people who are from a different race, culture or religion or to leave a baby in the foster system until the perfect match comes along?  What about gay couples, single people, older people, disabled people?  What is the long term implication of a baby growing up with a family who is “different” vs growing up with no family.  I know my answer …I would love to hear yours…………..

Another interesting blog

Posted by Terri Lailvaux on March 21, 2011
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Category : Adoption

Hello everyone,

There are some very interesting blog comments here:  http://www.rageagainsttheminivan.com/2011/03/what-i-want-you-to-know-adoption-and.html

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